Self Clearing Diary
ChapterNine

'More on Communications'

Our aim is to inspire others towards enlightenment via self clearing

Now that we have knocked down some barriers to communicating freely, its time to look at the mechanics involved in communication.

In its simplest form, communication is a projection of something from a source point to a receipt point. In some respects, we could even think of all particle motion or flows of energy as being communications from one location to another. But here we are interested in communications originated by a living being, and this has the special aspect of being created and projected here and now at the will of the originating individual. This is special because much of what we perceive is old stuff that is continuing to bounce around.

There are many useful things that we can address here and we will take them up one at a time, doing some drills as we go along. Even a small amount of work in this area can significantly improve someone's life because it is such a major part of our interaction with other people.

The Pilot's Self Clearing book - Chapter 9

Monday 21/9/98

9.1.1 to 9.1.6 Projecting intention

The simplest and most powerful factor involved in actually getting a communication across is to project or intend the communication across the distance and into the spot where you want to deliver it.

Interestingly enough, the words and mechanics are secondary to the intention itself. You can say the wrong words and people get what you mean if your intention is strong enough. You can whisper across a noisy room and be heard by your intended recipient. Strange and wonderful things can occur as you develop skills in this area.

On simply reading the drills given here, they might seem silly or trivial. They are not, but you will need to try them to understand the effect.

T - I selected various items. I could really feel the differences with voice projection and felt good with each one. I made up a word to use a substitute for "hello". I felt the intention of a greeting. I then used various words and still felt the intention of a greeting, strong and warming. I shouted hello at various objects (testet on R first). I felt a bit like a cockatoo. Then whispered hello to other objects, maintaining intention. I then projected "hello" into objects silently. This came fairly easily as I am friendly by nature. Struggled with "thank you" back (I have a lot of charge on pretend/imagination) and was not able to complete this process.

Tuesday 22/9/98

9.1.1 Projecting intention

Pick an object in the room and begin saying "Hello" to it out loud. Notice the point in space into which you are projecting each hello. Intentionally aim some of them to land in front of or behind the object and to the right and left of it. Then focus in and have the hello land right in the center of the object. Pick another object and repeat this.

Concentrate on getting the hello into specific points under your control and with awareness of where the specific point is that you are projecting into. Continue this until you master projecting your intention into specific points.

Note that here we are using the active rather than the passive definition of intention. In other words, this is in the sense of intending something to happen rather than contemplating one's intentions or motivations.

R - Though I've done heaps of communications processes over the years within Scn I really enjoyed doing this process because it was totally self-determined. Felt a bit self-conscious at first, saying `hello' to objects around the house (because one doesn't normally do that). Then soon I was happily saying hello to everything I could see, having the hello land in front, behind, and then right in the center of each object, specific points, etc. I was still doing it when T arrived home from work so I sent a big hello to her through the wall - which she received - so decided that was a good result.

T - R created a new process for me with my pretend/imagination problem. It is "Look at an object and think of something it could say to you if it could talk." This process was very successful (tested on a key and a lid from a tin of salmon). Looking at items, I can now see their mest (life) whereas before I had taken it for granted. I can see how objects "fit in" or "belong" in their surroundings.

R - Yes, when T again said she had a problem `pretending' that objects gave replies to her `hellos' I suddenly saw a solution. It could have been anything from PTS to out-ethics, but that wouldn't explain why she was doing fine on the rest of the processes. So the process just popped into my mind to solve what clearly seemed a missing gradient for her. She couldn't imagine objects saying anything - so that became the process. `Locate an object - If it could talk, what would it say?' As you can see it worked beautifully. This validates an earlier win I had where I described attaining an ability to create a process to solve any problem.

Wednesday 23/9/98

R - Had a `spontaneous' cognition this morning. Awoke with the understanding that 1 + 1 does not = 2, not if you understand what as-isness is. If 1 was added to 1 (itself) in the same time and space, it would as-is. (Even science recognises two objects can't occupy the same space at the same time, for a human/earth example). So, there goes the importance of the entire subject of mathematics as far as I'm concerned. Which is a big relief - I thought I was inadequate because I couldn't see how I could master such a complex `science' (sines, cosines, logarithms, advanced algebra etc). Now I see it's only valid for this universe and for specialised purposes. And I now understand what LRH meant by `relative' truth.

At breakfast I further realised that the entirety of current (and past, and future) earth education was simply agreement with the physical universe. It is indoctrination/ brainwashing and results in fixed agreement with mest. It's hypnosis, a state of effect, being mesmerised by the apparency of existence. As I bombarded T before breakfast trying to explain this to her I knew that daily self clearing was serving to unmock mest for me, to break the chains binding me to the physical universe.

Thursday 24/9/98

9.1.2

Now rapidly look around the room selecting objects and saying hello to them, having the intention land squarely in the middle of the object each time.

If you feel that one missed and didn't really land in the object, then say hello to another object and then go back and say hello to the one you missed rather than struggling to correct your intention. In other words, keep moving along briskly in a positive manner bouncing back as needed until you are satisfied that you are reaching everything satisfactorily

R - This went well, too. It was like being allowed to flex theta/intention `muscles' I've not used for quite a while. For instance when I did karate (years before discovering scn) I got annoyed with some kids making fun of the class from outside the gym. I ran to the nearest window, jumped up to the bars, looked down at them and sent a loud kiai (karate shout) at them. One of them turned white and froze with shock . Another one fell back onto the ground as if he'd been hit with a baseball bat, and a third one ran away like he'd seen a ghost.

9.1.3

Now makeup a nonsense word and have it mean "hello". Say this word, but have the intention "hello" land in the objects.

Next, use random words that have other meanings, but say them to the objects with the intention that they mean "hello". Do this until you can decouple your mental intention from the verbalization and project an intention regardless of the sounds you are using.

R - Did this until I had separated the hello from the intention. But I think I need more practice on this one, and I won't be happy until my intention has some observable effect on objects, as it did on people in the karate example above.

9.1.7

T - A guy who has abused my help previously at work came looking for it again today. The moment he approached my desk my intention was that he would have to obtain help elsewhere, and it worked. My communication was direct and unambiguous. The look on the guy's face was amazing. A fellow worker complimented me on the manner in which I handled the situation. It was the highlight of my day.

9.2.1

T - Performed this process on unusual items (mostly toiletries). I was very happy with being able to imagine the objects speaking (finally, thanks to R's process), and I was able to precisely intend the response.

Saturday 26/9/98

9.2.2

T - I did this process with obvious differences between acknowledgments.

9.2.3

T - This process was performed easily (I'm still winning because I can imagine the objects saying hello).

Sunday 27/9/98

9.1.4

Now shout hello at objects until you feel any barrier that you might have on projecting force has given way. Then whisper hello at objects while projecting a strong intention. If needed, alternate a few commands of each until you can maintain as strong an intention while whispering as you do while shouting.

R - Well, what a hoot this turned out to be! I told T this process was too noisy to do at home and I would try it in the car driving to the swimming pool (we go every Sunday). Anyway, I forgot all about it until we'd done our laps at the pool and were sitting in the spa. T reminded me and we decided to do it on the way back. Well, I wound the windows down and plucked up the courage to shout my first hello at a traffic light. It didn't fall down, the universe didn't collapse, T didn't laugh at me (too much) so I fired off a few more hellos. Then I got a shock as T joined in, shouting out of her window! Well, pretty soon we graduated from objects and did it on people! (Sorry, Pilot, we squirrelled your process!), creating responses from people across two lanes of traffic. I took a win on attaining the desired result for the process prior to losing my voice.

Tuesday 29/9/98

9.1.5

Now project the intention "hello" into objects silently. The idea here is to get the intention into the object rather than simply thinking it in your head. Occasionally say hello out loud to the objects a few times and then go back to the silent intention. Continue this until you can maintain the strength of your intention even if you are silent. As in all of these drills, you project your intention into individual objects, hitting precise spots

R - Attained first cognition after about 10 hellos. I continued through `effort' until I noticed I could have my `hello' just appear within objects without any resistance. After about 20 more hellos I became aware of the actual impulse of energy created by my intention! This was brief but so real it rehabilitated my purpose to eventually move/levitate objects. I realised I had attained a new level of communication with objects, and a better gradient than trying (and failing) to actually move objects.

Then I realised I had attained a further separation of the word/ thought/ energy/intention package, creating a pure energy impulse. I realised that's all a `hello' was/is. It's simply an energy impulse to prompt a reaction in another person (or object). I then realised why I sometimes fail to get a response from others - I'm just not reaching them with my intention. Which of course explains why I can't move objects - I'm not reaching them either. There were further realisations involving a time when I was knocked down in karate by a lower grade student. As I withheld my impulse to kill him with a kick to the temple (which he was wide-open to) I was angry because he thought he'd `beaten' me. My impulse to kill/not kill was felt by everyone in the dojo because they stopped sparring and looked. An instructor quickly came over and separated us and my partner was given a quick reality factor on being more respectful to students from other schools who can be more highly skilled than expected by the belt they are now wearing in their `new' school.

9.1.6

Pushing in one direction can be tiring. Communications and intentions do not have to be two way, but they are more comfortable when they move in both directions. So, to balance this a bit, intend "hello" into each object silently and then imagine that it is saying "thank you" back to you, with the intention moving from the object to you. Continue this until you feel comfortable. Note that it is actually you who is providing the intention on this returned communication.

R - This process quickly made me more aware of my end of the communication cycle. I realised of course there should be a return of the original impulse, and realised I chronically ignore/not-is/resist this effect on self (which explains a lot of unsuccessful communication in the past!) by being too fixated on creating an effect `out there'. Sort of a must have on cause and a can't have on effect type of thing. And of course `that which you resist you become'.....

9.1.7

Try these things in everyday conversation, saying things with a strong mental intention and also experimenting a bit with not putting any intention behind what you are saying or putting out a different intention than the words you use. Notice how people react and see what you can observe. Note that very strong intentions tend to be commanding. Also note that people often feel non-verbal intentions but choose to ignore them.

If you get very good at this, you can sometimes make a waiter or waitress jerk or turn around with a silent intention, but they are so good at ignoring shouted cries for attention from customers that ignoring a silent intention is very easy for them. Even if you can see them react, they will make a point of not responding. You will find, however, that you can often catch their attention with a whisper across a noisy room and they respond best to this because it's novel and it gets around the heavy mental shields they have built up against being continually pushed around by the customers. The lighter the touch, the better the reaction.

R - Over the next few days I became aware of an increase of intention in, for example, placing my communications in the centre of a person's head. Although I haven't had use for it yet I feel more confident about reaching another person across a distance without `spraying' sound/intention over a wider area than necessary.

Friday 2/10/98

If somebody is determined to get a communication across, they keep pushing and repeating the communication until they see that it has been received. If their observation is poor, it is hard for them to see that the communication was received unless they are given some sort of acknowledgment for the communication.

Furthermore, many things that a person is doing or creating compulsively or automatically are old attempts to communicate something which were never properly acknowledged. And in the course of everyday conversation, the communications will often go smoother if there is some acknowledgment back and forth as well as originated communications.

There are many things that you can say to acknowledge a communication. Sometimes you only wish to convey that you heard it and other times you might also convey agreement. Note that you do not have to agree to acknowledge something. The person can at least be made to feel that he has gotten his message across. To acknowledge, you might say things such as "Good", "Fine", "Thank you", "I got that", "I heard that", "All right", etc....

9.2.1

Imagine objects in the room saying hello to you and you acknowledge each one by saying "Thank you" out loud. Put the acknowledgment precisely into the object as in the intention drills given in the previous section.

R - Wow! I've just read through this process and realised this was/is a missing link in my communication skills - a complete and utter blind spot! Verbally I have no communication problems but silently (theta com) I now realise it was totally on automatic, if it was occurring at all (unless handling in-session entities telepathically of course). What I mean is I suddenly realise I can now confront others and silently acknowledge them, for example whenever a verbal response is inappropriate. Lack of this ability has contributed to my downfall as a thetan, etc.

And I hadn't done the process, yet! Okay, so as I'm doing this one I further realise I've got a tool to maintain order in my space for the first time in a long time! It's the `stop' in the cycle of control (start/change/stop). And because I haven't been ending cycle on so much stuff (energy flows/postulates/circuits etc) it's been piling up on me for eons. Mmm, this is actually a chronic spiritual ruin originating in something I was unable to acknowledge (you could say confront - but that wasn't quite the right indication and so it didn't as-is) long, long ago. So now I'm alert for what I've been doing/am doing to substitute for that missing acknowledgment.

If one is as alive as one can communicate, and you divide comm into start-change-stop, then this process has restored acknowledgment, a missing one-third of my aliveness! I now have more control over my own and others' impulses, and it feels like a logjam is clearing. One hour later I am still cogniting. And I realise I was always taught to say thank you, but not to get it to reach the other person. Had time to do further processing but wanted to savour this win for the rest of the day. As I looked around at people in the room I could see who was in the middle of a thought process and felt I could acknowledge that for them if I really wanted to.

9.2.4

Have objects say hello to you and practice acknowledging (out loud) with various attitudes of approval or disapproval and also doing a few pure acknowledgments occasionally. Continue until you master this and then finish off with some pure acknowledgments.

T - I was able to get the required responses (good and bad) as well as "thank you". I'm happy with my results with intention and communication. Two weeks ago my communication wasn't heard in a crowded bingo room. Today it was. I'm finding this chapter a little boring and can't wait to get back to writing.

Tuesday 6/10/98

T - I did this process, practising partial and full acknowledgments. I now understand the difference between a partial and a full acknowledgment.
R pointed out the areas of my communication which have improved, and those that require improvement.  I was grateful for this input.

Thursday 8/10/98

9.2.2

You can acknowledge with too much force, not only ending the cycle of communication but also putting in an extra push that can overwhelm the person you are talking too. You can also acknowledge too weakly (not an encouraging half acknowledgment to get the person to talk more, but simply too weak).

Have objects say hello to you and practice over and under acknowledging them, doing a few with too much force (shouting or whatever) and then a few that are too weak, and then a few correct ones. Go through these a few times until you master this and then finish off with good acknowledgments.

R - After one command I realised an under ack does tend to generate a repeated communication from the other terminal. After two more commands I realised over-acking can easily make others unwilling to communicate.

9.2.3

Now have objects say hello to you and acknowledge them silently.

R - Discovered communicating with objects is a lot easier than communicating with people. Also that the comm I was putting into objects reflected earlier unsatisfactory comm with people, which then tended to resolve as I realised what the errors were.

9.2.4 (acknowledge with attitudes of disapproval, etc)

R - Numerous cognitions 1. people react to such attitudes by resenting/resisting such communications in various ways. 2. too much approval can generate suspicion. 3. the ideal acknowledgment duplicates the tone of the person acked. (Read about all this along the way but it's quite different to discover its truth for oneself!) 4. an attitude is an additive to a communication and tends to provoke a further comm. 5. a common human strategy is to adopt an apathetic tone while greeting so as to invite inquiry/communication/sympathy from others.

9.2.5

Now practice partial acknowledgments as follows:

Have an object say hello to you. Give it a partial or leading acknowledgment which encourages it to say more. This could be a normal acknowledgment said in a leading manner or even a questioning "umm..?". Then imagine it saying "The weather is nice" and give it a full acknowledgment. Pick another object and do the same until you have this mastered.

R - 1. Realised we can often tell when someone has more to say so partial acknowledgments are common and automatic. 2. With some people a full acknowledgment actually prompts immediate further communication! I had charge on this (from invalidating my acknowlegments), but then realised they needed others' acks to end cycle on their comm so they could get to the next stuck comm they had lined up. Such people can't ack (some of) their own comms and are dependent on other people to do it for them. 3. all comm is originated because of something (goal/implant/ARC X, etc), then I continued spotting how I could have handled some recent communications much better. 4. the `don't touch' think has really reduced me/my beingness. On this process I rehabilitated the to-ing and fro-ing, the ebb and flow, of communication, the putting myself out there, expanding my beingness, reaching...I realised it was okay to `be' there, or `be there' as well as `here'.

9.2.6

Now try this in everyday conversation. Again, experiment a bit and observe the results.

You can often defuse troublesome situations by acknowledging very fully and absolutely while not saying or originating anything else yourself. Handle everything, even questions, by continuing to say something like "thank you very much, I really understood what you said" in a strong and confident manner. Each strong acknowledgment tends to end the action that the other person is putting there and they keep having to start all over again.

This trick of continuing to acknowledge without originating works great as a defense against salesmen. Don't depend on it in high violence situations, but it does work sometimes, use your judgment. As for policemen, it might sometimes get you off with a reprimand instead of a traffic ticket, but don't expect it to derail somebody who is intent on doing their duty.

R - Just contemplating this process rehabilitated many wins and gains previously achieved from communication processes/drills over the years. Realised I'd been up and down the tone scale when communicating, eg apathy, anger, games, postulates, for example, depending on where the other person was, etc. A major major win using acknowledgment was when I broke a number of road rules some years ago, overtaking cars stopped at a stop sign `becasue they were too slow' and turning onto a freeway. Then I saw why they were so cautious - there was a police car opposite and I saw it was full of senior police. I decided there was no point being effect, that it was `a fair cop', that I was completely responsible for breaking the rules, etc and stopped my vehicle without being pulled over by them. I got out as the police car rushed towards me. A big one got out yelling about did I know how dangerous that was, etc. I mean, I knew I was gone so that's what I said. I told him he was damn right, it was completely irresponsible, I should lose my licence, there was no excuse, because it was completely true and I fully agreed with him, I was a menace on the road. Then he said don't let it happen again, walked back to the car full of police and drove away.

I could hardly believe my good fortune. But my driving had been totally causative so I didn't feel guilty about that. I had decided to break some rules and was quite happy to be fully responsible for that. And I recalled one of LRH's stories about his being involved in a multiple car accident (no one hurt) with the drivers all blaming each other. As I recall the tale, Ron told them that it was his fault because he had been watching a girl walking past. This ended the argument and they dispersed and drove away.

9.3 Putting it all together

Let's wrap this up with some practice at asking a question with intention, getting an answer, and acknowledging the answer. For this we need live people and a simple gimmick to provide an excuse for asking an inoffensive question. The easiest way to do this is to do a survey. Get a clipboard and attach a notepad to it. If necessary, practice writing on it while standing up. It will be easier if you look and dress professionally or in an appropriate manner depending on the location and the questions used. Make up a pair of survey questions. "What was the last movie that you saw?" and "Did you like it?" will generally work fine as long as they are appropriate to the place where you will do the survey.

When you ask the question, you need to be interested in hearing the answer, so try to use a question that you can work up some enthusiasm for. And remember that this is a chance to learn a bit more about people. On that basis, you should have some real interest in hearing what they have to say. This is good practice for getting along well at social gatherings, because people like it when somebody is interested in what they are saying.

You might as well do this as a real survey and actually total up the results afterwards. This will ensure that you actually write up the answers properly (people will find it annoying if you don't) and you will know the results and be able to answer smartly in case one of the people surveyed sees you again later and asks. Also, this might make it a bit more fun.

If anybody asks, you can say that you are doing this for a course that you are taking. Psychology students, marketing students, and students of statistical analysis do these kind of things all the time. There is no need to pretend to be doing an official survey for some company. Go to a crowded place. Select individuals, go over to them, and ask them if you can ask them a survey question. Acknowledge the answer, and if they are willing, go ahead and ask the first question, acknowledge it, and then ask the second question and acknowledge it. Write down the answers. Thank them for their time and move on to the next one.

If they have a good bit to say, you can encourage them with partial acknowledgments. If you try to give somebody a strong acknowledgment too soon, they will feel that you are trying to stop them from communicating or that you didn't get what they are trying to say and they have a tendency to repeat themselves and talk on at great length. This is called a premature acknowledgment. Try to avoid doing it and when you do, live with the consequences. You goal is to cleanly hear a full communication and acknowledge it at the right moment with the right amount of strength to properly complete it.

If they originate something else instead of answering, let them say what they need to, acknowledge it fully, handle it if necessary (they may need the time or directions), and repeat your question. If somebody proves troublesome or dangerous, handle with acknowledgments and gently disconnect.

R - Both I and T had some back-off on doing an actual survey in order to practice what we have learned so far. But then I came up with a good compromise, something we were both interested in and would feel honest/comfortable about asking others about. As we are looking to buy a new property we should both feel interested in where people where we work live and how they get to work (eg train, bus, car). I didn't want us to dodge doing this process altogether, so I had a win on coming up with this.

Sorry, Pilot, we didn't actually DO this process. But as soon as I decided (but reneged later) to `do' this process I realised that having a purpose (e.g. doing a survey, promoting Amway, etc) immediately/automatically puts one at cause in a conversation, just as the above process puts one at cause.

Summary

R - This from a recent email of KB:

`However, I have found that the Pilot's Self-Clearing book is filling in a lot of the blanks, and satisfying that "incomplete" in me. I prefer the self-train, self-clear approach, because I frankly don't trust anyone else with my "case", and I think cultivating a culture of self-sufficiency is vital to the survival of this planet.'

R - Here are some remarks I made after completing chapter 6, but which didn't go into that chapter. But I think it would be applicable anywhere so I've included it here:

I've found the Self Clearing book quite brilliant. It highlights areas of a being's existence, one after another, clearing confusions and aberrations, re-aligning goals and purposes in a spiral of ever-increasing survival attainment. Daily self processing keeps one's head well above the muddy waters of life. It keeps one focused and in a constant state of increasing enlightenment..