21Self Clearing Diary
Chapter21
Affinity (or liking), Reality (or agreement), and Communication form an inter-related triangle that tends to increase or decrease as a unit. The effect is so common that Scientology refers to this as the ARC triangle. As the ARC for something is increased, you will also find that one comes to a greater understanding of it, therefore you will also see the equation ARC = Understanding. A useful technique for teachers is to raise the student's ARC for the subject being studied because they will understand it more easily. The techniques that we discussed in the chapter on study are actually built on this idea of increasing A or R or C in the area being studied...
...These factors of ARC could be thought of as flowing or interchanging between beings. People communicate, they like each other, they agree with each other and so forth. Or they break and reject these connections. Sometimes these breaks occur for good reason, but the usual case is that they come about because of mechanics and were neither necessary nor desirable.The problem is in the interrelationship of these factors. A communication is inadvertently cut, for example, and suddenly one is also dealing with dislike and disagreement.
...These ARC breaks are undesirable because the amount of upset is generally out of proportion to the immediate cause.
...And once they are upset, they mishandle things and make mistakes and it all gets worse. Almost inevitably, the advice given to an upset person is that if they would only calm down, things would get better. But in everyday life, this is usually accomplished by suppressing the upset instead of confronting the factors involved. This leaves buried charge which can again be triggered.
...This buried charge weighs one down and makes life miserable. It dissolves on spotting the underlying moments of enforcement or inhibition of A, R, or C that triggered the upsets, especially if one spots the first time that it happened in this lifetime or even earlier, because later occurrences can hang up on the earlier times...
The Pilot's Self Clearing book - Chapter 21
Thursday 3/2/00
21.1 Enforced Affinity
Here we are looking for moments when affinity or liking was enforced. This could include insisting or demanding or any kind of pushiness. These commands are run alternately.
(a) Recall a time when you insisted that somebody like something or somebody
(b) Recall a time when somebody insisted that you like something or somebody
(c) Recall a time when somebody insisted that another like something or somebody
T - I realised that parents are constantly enforcing affinity on their children, be it choice of religion, where to live, what to eat etc. They're passing on their track and aberrations.
Next, run this on a personal basis as follows
(a) Recall a time when you insisted that somebody like you
(b) Recall a time when somebody insisted that you like them
(c) Recall a time when somebody insisted that another like them
T - People that come up to others in the street are seeking affinity, then sometimes the insistence is put in place with enforced communication. We're all seeking acceptance on some level.
Sunday 13/2/00
21.2 Inhibited Affinity
Here we are looking for moments when affinity or liking was inhibited. This could include denial or rejection. These commands are run alternately
(a) Recall a time when you insisted that somebody dislike something or somebody
(b) Recall a time when somebody insisted that you dislike something or somebody
(c) Recall a time when somebody insisted that another dislike something or somebody
T - I came up with a lot of responses over two days without a huge win. I decided to press on with the next process.
Saturday 19/2/00
Next, run this on a personal basis as follows
(a) Recall a time when you rejected somebody's affinity
(b) Recall a time when somebody rejected your affinity
(c) Recall a time when somebody rejected another's affinity
T - I found it hard to come up with anything from recent times because I've really been able to improve, be more accepting and less reactive.
21.3 Positive Affinity
Now let's finish this off by recalling some positive affinity
(a) Recall a time that you liked somebody
(b) Recall a time when somebody liked you
(c) Recall a time when somebody liked someone else
T - I find that I like most people and can deal with them in whatever form they come. I regard this as positive affinity.
Saturday 26/2/00
21.4 Enforced Agreement
Here we are looking for moments when agreement or reality was enforced. This could include insisting or demanding or any kind of pushiness. These commands are run alternately
(a) Recall a time when you insisted that somebody agree with something or somebody
(b) Recall a time when somebody insisted that you agree with something or somebody
(c) Recall a time when somebody insisted that another agree with something or somebody
T - I realised that insistence is not the final say in the matter. My track record especially recently with insistence is that I'm not caught up in someone else's aberrative behaviour. The supervisor recently enforced her agreement on getting me to perform a task urgently. I was able to have her come up with a solution when I needed to leave work ie she gave the task to someone else to complete.
21.5 Inhibited Agreement
Here we are looking for moments when agreement or reality was inhibited. This could include denial or rejection.
(a) Recall a time when you insisted that somebody disagree with something or somebody
(b) Recall a time when somebody insisted that you disagree with something or somebody
(c) Recall a time when somebody insisted that another disagree with something or somebody
T - The martial art that I'm currently doing is trying to get me to disagree with all other martial arts. I didn't realise that before. I now know why I've avoided groups, teams, classes etc because it's all about control.
Next, run this on a personal basis as follows
(a) Recall a time when you rejected somebody's reality or you refused to agree with them
(b) Recall a time when somebody rejected your reality or refused to agree with you
(c) Recall a time when somebody rejected another's reality or refused to agree with them
T - I related this one to the court system. That's why there are so many appeals in court because people can't accept someone disagreeing with them.
Sunday 27/2/00
21.6 Positive Agreement
(a) Recall a time that you agreed with somebody
(b) Recall a time when somebody agreed with you
(c) Recall a time when somebody agreed with someone else
T - I realised that help is an agreement. If you offer to assist someone and they accept then an agreement is in place.
21.7 Enforced Communication
(a) Recall a time when you insisted that somebody communicate with somebody or something
(b) Recall a time when somebody insisted that you communicate with somebody or something
(c) Recall a time when somebody insisted that another communicate with somebody or something
T - Recently I've been able to enforce communication with R in a positive way eg handling ARCXs and not "hiding" in the bedroom.
Tuesday 29/2/00
21.8 Inhibited Communication
(a) Recall a time when you insisted that somebody not communicate with somebody or something
(b) Recall a time when somebody insisted that you not communicate with somebody or something
(c) Recall a time when somebody insisted that another not communicate with somebody or something
T - I've realised that there is insistence to not communicate with someone. I have that with two ex-friends. It's not luck or whatever, it's an insistence and/or avoidance.
(a) Recall a time when you rejected somebody's communication
(b) Recall a time when somebody rejected your communication
(c) Recall a time when somebody rejected another's communication
T - I realised that a lack of acknowledgment can be considered a rejection of communication.
Thursday 2/3/00
21.9 Positive Communication
(a) Recall a time that you communicated well with somebody
(b) Recall a time when somebody communicated well with you
(c) Recall a time when somebody communicated well with someone else
T - I realised that one has to be able to give SRAs (Severe Reality Adjustments) or enforce in order to help others. I thought of a time when R communicated with a wino who was smoking on an underground train platform. R did a good job communicating with the man and the man did not became violent, which may have occurred if the communication wasn't satisfactory.
R - Again, because T attains the state of Clear in the next chapter I've decided to enter my results into the diary at a later time.
(These pages still under construction as at May 2000)
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