CHAPTER 16
MUST HAVE AND CAN'T HAVE
When you want something too much, it tends to run away from you. When you want to avoid something too strongly, it tends to seek you out.
Think of being in the water and reaching too hard for something so that you make a wave which pushes it away. And then think of pulling back from something so hard that it creates a suction which draws it to you.
It is not that you can't like something and get it and have it, it is that you can't crave something and cling to it without getting into trouble. It calls for a lightness of touch rather than desperation. The more desperate you are, the harder it will be.
You might say that your energy is behaving in a backwards fashion. Your attempts to draw in what you "must have" and to push away what you "can't have" between them create a sort of unpleasant vacuum. It is similar to the "ridges" formed by the opposing forces of a problem (two things pushing against each other forming a sort of wall) but it is more dynamic in nature with love, fame, and fortune rushing away from you and undesirable things continually landing on your plate.
If you can reach a level of acceptance, of being willing to have or not have, if you can like and enjoy without craving and compulsion, if you can be disinterested or walk away from something without rejection and revulsion, then you can rise above this mechanism and dissolve it. That is the real secret of success. That is how to lead a charmed life where good things come your way instead of studiously avoiding you.
One of the best ways to break down a "must have" is to visualize wasting the item. Sometimes it might feel like you are feeding things into a vacuum for a few commands. And then the barrier will break down and you will find that its easy to have something if you will give a little bit of it away.
Then you can go further by visualizing giving it to others and others giving it to you.
We will run this on a number of common "buttons" (a button is something you push or that somebody else pushes on you to bring about a reaction, in other words, a hot topic).
In some cases, the item might be one that you are trying to avoid instead of something that you are trying to have. In that case, instead of "wasting" the item, you should run "having more of" the item as the first process (the other processes remain the same). We will discuss that variation further in the next chapter. For now, if one of these seems like something you want to get away from rather than have, use "have more of" instead of "waste" as the first process in the area.
16.1 Money
16.1.1
Visualize (invent and create a mockup) of ways to waste money. Imagine actual physical actions which do waste it. Keep mocking these up one at a time as well as you can until something comes apart or falls away.
If the need and craving were really bad, you will often feel warmth and energy (a pleasant sensation) as the barrier falls away.
Of course there are a few people who are already in good shape in this area, in which case the result might not be spectacular but simply feeling good after a few commands of this.
But note that even many rich people are not in good shape mentally on the subject of money, being trapped by their fortunes.
16.1.2
Note that money is the "energy" of society and it needs to flow freely.
Run these alternately:
a) visualize giving money to another
b) visualize another giving money to you
c) visualize another giving money to others
16.1.3
Money is only a medium of exchange. It is only a symbol or a substitution for actual work and possessions.
Run these alternately:
a) What could money be a substitution for
b) What could substitute for money
16.1.4
You need to be free on both accepting and rejecting. So let's run:
a) What money could you accept
b) What money could you reject
Note that you can both accept and reject the same thing (in other words, you could do either one comfortably).
16.1.5
This drill is done by closing your eyes and visualizing clouds of money around your body. Then you take the cloud and push it into the body (don't pull it in, push it in from outside, just visualize this as well as you can). After you do a few commands of this, mocking up a new cloud each time, then you throw the cloud away and have it explode in the distance. Again doing it a few times. Then go back to pushing it in, alternating these two actions back and forth, a few commands of each.
If either throwing away the cloud of money or pushing it into the body seems difficult, then do the opposite command a few times (push clouds of money into the body until you can throw them away or throw them away until you can push them in).
Begin this drill visualizing dirty and degraded money to start with and later (when you can handle that well) gradually improving the quality until you are mocking up extremely nice money (gold or whatever).
It is best if you mockup the stuff in a sphere all around you rather than just in front of you.
Do this until you feel really good, and can have or reject money comfortably.
16.1.6
Now close your eyes and imagine that you are looking down at a large city. Preferably one that you have some familiarity with and do not have a great dislike for.
Spot accumulations or flows of money within the city. For each one, reach down and connect to it, and then disconnect from it.
Initially you might find that these things tend to suck you in or that you have trouble disconnecting.
Continue this until you can reach and let go of these easily without any difficulty or urge to remain connected.
Note that a "greedy soul" between lives can often be lead around by the nose by mocking up some gold in front of him and leading him along behind it. This process should make you immune to silly tricks like that.
This entire set of processes should be continued until you can either have or not have money comfortably and do not feel under any compulsion either to get it or to avoid it. If you do feel any craving or compulsion, you should go back and run the above set of processes again.
After this, you should find that it is easier to think about money sensibly and that it is less difficult to acquire because you are no longer driving it away by clutching at it too hard. A bit of it might even fall into your lap gratuitously. And you should no longer be trapped by your own greed.
16.2 Sex and Sensation
Here we are talking about the sex act as a mechanism of strong pleasure and sensation rather than addressing love and admiration which are much higher level feelings that will be addressed later.
We are also talking about strong pleasurable sensations in general and if sex is an inappropriate item (you are too young or whatever), then substitute pleasure or pleasurable sensations in place of sex in the commands.
Also, if you are stuck on some drug which gives a powerful feeling of pleasure or ecstasy, then run this entire set of processes on it (using ecstasy or some other appropriate word) either instead of or in addition to running these processes on sex.
These are run like the ones in section 16.1 above unless otherwise noted.
16.2.1 Mockup a way to waste sex
16.2.2
a) visualize giving sexual sensation to another
b) visualize another giving sexual sensation to you
c) visualize helping a prospective partner to have sex with someone else
d) visualize helping someone else to have sex with a prospective partner.
Note that c) and d) are not meant to mean participation in an orgy, They are meant to be selfless aid of another even though you yourself might desire the prospective partner.
Note that this is a bit different from the way we ran money because with sex, either giving or receiving (questions a or b) are both to some degree have for self. You also need to run allowing others to have so that you can really be free in an area. Hence, the need for commands c) and d).
16.2.3
a) What could sex be a substitution for
b) What could substitute for sex
16.2.4
a) What sex or pleasurable sensation could you accept
b) What sex or pleasurable sensation could you reject
16.2.5
Mockup crowds of sexually desirable bodies around you, either clothed or not, and have them radiate strong sexual sensations at you. Begin with dirty and degraded (but still sexy) ones and gradually work up to ideal ones.
Push the crowds into your body a few times and then throw them off into the distance and have them explode a few times alternately as in 16.1.5 above.
Note that some mass or object is needed for this process, so that if you are running it on something like ecstasy instead of sex, you should select and mockup and appropriate mass to contain the sensation and radiate it at you.
16.2.6
Now close your eyes and imagine that you are looking down at a large city as in 16.1.6 above.
Spot desirable sexual flows and activities. For each one, reach down and connect to it, and then disconnect from it.
Continue this until you can reach and let go of these easily without any difficulty or urge to remain connected.
16.3 Food and Eating
We have bodies that, on a mechanical basis, need to eat. Since the need is chronic, it is easy to build up must haves and can't haves in this area.
16.3.1 Mockup a way to waste desirable food
16.3.2
a) visualize giving desirable food to another
b) visualize another giving desirable food to you
c) visualize another giving desirable food to others
16.3.3
a) What could eating be a substitution for
b) What could substitute for eating
16.3.4
a) What desirable food could you accept
b) What desirable food could you reject
and then also run
a) What undesirable food could you accept
b) What undesirable food could you reject
16.3.5
Now mockup huge amounts of extremely desirable food surrounding you. Begin with yummy but "degraded" food (whatever you think of this way) and gradually improve the quality.
Push them into the body and throw them away as in 16.1.5 above.
16.3.6
Now close your eyes and imagine that you are looking down at a large city as in 16.1.6 above.
Spot desirable accumulations of food and crowds of people enjoying eating. For each one, reach down and connect to it, and then disconnect from it.
Continue this until you can reach and let go of these easily without any difficulty or urge to remain connected.
16.4 Work and Jobs
Although you might detest working, work and jobs are something that most people need to survive.
Here we will use "work" in the process commands because it isn't always a formal salaried job. Housekeeping or going to school or doing charity work or simply having some role or task which one has undertaken and become responsible for are all included in this.
Note however that we are aiming this at desirable work rather than drudgery or slave labor.
16.4.1 Mockup a way to waste desirable work
16.4.2
a) visualize giving desirable work to another
b) visualize another giving desirable work to you
c) visualize another giving desirable work to others
16.4.3
a) What could work be a substitution for
b) What could substitute for working
16.4.4
a) What desirable work could you accept
b) What desirable work could you reject
and then also run
a) What undesirable work could you accept
b) What undesirable work could you reject
16.4.5
Now mockup clouds of work related objects, whatever seems to represent work for you, beginning with degraded ones and then moving on to better ones.
Push them into the body and throw them away as in 16.1.5 above.
16.4.6
Now close your eyes and imagine that you are looking down at a large city as in 16.1.6 above.
Spot places with desirable work that you'd enjoy doing. For each one, reach down and connect to it, and then disconnect from it.
Continue this until you can reach and let go of these easily without any difficulty or urge to remain connected.
16.5 Desirable Possessions
Here we want to run the kind of stuff that you really would want to have and perhaps can't have. This could be cars or stereos or fancy china or jewelry or whatever.
If you have a strong desire for children or pets or even plants or some other special thing, then repeat this entire set of processes again using that.
This can also be run on "beautiful things", with the emphasis on the aesthetics of the objects, especially objects of art.
16.5.1 Mockup a way to waste desirable possessions.
16.5.2
a) visualize giving desirable possessions to another
b) visualize another giving desirable possessions to you
c) visualize another giving desirable possessions to others
16.5.3
a) What could desirable possessions be a substitution for
b) What could substitute for desirable possessions
16.5.4
a) What desirable possessions could you accept
b) What desirable possessions could you reject
and then also run
a) What undesirable possessions could you accept
b) What undesirable possessions could you reject
16.5.5
Now mockup clouds of desirable possessions, beginning with degraded ones and then moving on to better ones.
Push them into the body and throw them away as in 16.1.5 above.
16.5.6
Now close your eyes and imagine that you are looking down at a large city as in 16.1.6 above.
Spot accumulations of desirable possessions. For each one, reach down and connect to it, and then disconnect from it.
Continue this until you can reach and let go of these easily without any difficulty or urge to remain connected.
16.6 Love and Admiration
The desire for love and admiration is very basic to a being.
Desires for fame and/or respect can also be run here.
16.6.1 Mockup a way to waste love and admiration.
16.6.2
a) visualize giving love and admiration to another
b) visualize another giving love and admiration to you
c) visualize another giving love and admiration to others
16.6.3
a) What could love or admiration be a substitution for
b) What could substitute for love or admiration
16.6.4
a) What love could you accept
b) What love could you reject
and then also run
a) What admiration could you accept
b) What admiration could you reject
16.6.5
Now mockup crowds of people flowing of love and admiration at you, beginning with degraded people and then moving on to better ones.
Push them into the body and throw them away as in 16.1.5 above.
16.6.6
Now close your eyes and imagine that you are looking down at a large city as in 16.1.6 above.
Spot activities involving love or admiration. For each one, reach down and connect to it, and then disconnect from it.
Continue this until you can reach and let go of these easily without any difficulty or urge to remain connected.
16.7 Other Areas
If there is some other kind of thing that you feel compelled to have but can't seem to get, you can form a set of processes similar to the above to handle it.
Fill in the blanks with the appropriate item.
16.7.1 Mockup a way to waste _____.
16.7.2
a) visualize giving _____ to another
b) visualize another giving _____ to you
c) visualize another giving _____ to others
16.7.3
a) What could _____ be a substitution for
b) What could substitute for _____
16.7.4
a) What _____ could you accept
b) What _____ could you reject
16.7.5
Now mockup clouds of _____ or objects that represent _____ around you.
Push them into the body and throw them away as in 16.1.5 above.
16.7.6
Now close your eyes and imagine that you are looking down at a large city as in 16.1.6 above.
Spot collections of _____, or activities involving _____. For each one, reach down and connect to it, and then disconnect from it.
Continue this until you can reach and let go of these easily without any difficulty or urge to remain connected.